When you cry for home when you’re alone
I had an entire thought process going on when I started this page. I had been reading all of my posts sitting in drafts, some may sit there unpublished forever. As I was reading through, it started to remind me of all the times after my mother died, that I would cry in secret and beg God to go home. Home back then was for my mother to be alive and be with everything I knew and what was comfortable. Countless times I cried for home when I was alone.
I feel sad for the little girl that I was back then. At fourteen years old, I was left floundering to figure out my mother’s funeral, as I was the oldest.
A task I was not ready to handle, yet felt it was my duty. My Grandfather telling me I was the oldest child so it was up to me. I now believe he was just not
ready to plan and bury his child. He shot himself in the heart the following year; when the fog was so heavy on the Maine coast, that you couldn’t see across the small road separating the two houses as he lay in the doorway to the shed.
I have been asked often if I am angry at my mother. No. I feel sadness that I know how she was feeling. I can understand feeling so hopeless, alone and such utter despair that you want so badly for the pain to stop. You are in physical pain. It takes over your every thought. Make it stop, make it stop.
I cannot be angry when I can empathize with how my hurt they were in.
I have put myself on what I have called a Life for Death Punishment.
Have I had suicidal thoughts since then? Yes. Last Fall was a particularly bad time. I had an undiagnosed Thyroid condition and had such severe Flashbacks I went to the hospital for 10 days. They were able to reconfigure my medication and the thyroid condition was caught.
Being ill with Postpartum Psychosis
was a culmination of undiagnosed mental health issues, being in an unhealthy marriage and never having therapy after my mother and grandfather died. Those were not the only contributors. I developed pneumonia while in the hospital giving birth to my son. I had been depressed during my pregnancy and a dozen other things. It is never just one thing
Do I cry for home now? No, because I don’t know where home is anymore. The last few years have been terribly difficult, helping my daughter as she herself becomes a mother.
We are in the Carolinas again. She just recently gave birth to her third child. It has been a difficult journey that I know is not over.
I am tired. I am searching for home. I go to the beach almost every day. I swim and I recently got a moped to scoot around on. Those small things make me happy. I feel like I could sleep for a year. I want the waves at the beach to wash over me and take away all my sadness. The lonely and emptiness I feel while I look for home.
Good conversation, hugs, cool nights and the ocean breeze.
I no longer cry for home. I cry because I am looking for home. Unconditional love and understanding.
~Be Loud, Be Purposeful, Be Strong, Be Courageous, Be Creative, Be Something~